Being Proactive and Changing Perspective

Awesome building around Washington Square Park my friend Steph and I passed this past Saturday on the way to Dojo. Can some one identify it for me please?

My bad. My resolution to blog more regularly unfortunately has been placed on the back burner.  By far this has been my busiest semester, but as a whole I’m more content and self-aware than I have been in a while.  Between my capstone course working on a campaign for Pajama Program, doing media outreach for Long Island Children’s Museum, interning with Independent Film Channel, getting my fill of post Cold War Eastern European and Russian Cinema and Literature, developing PRestige Agency, delivering epic (if I do say so myself) speeches in Public Speaking, working on an independent study about the strategic thinking of Google for New Media, having adventures in NYC and spending quality time with my best friends – life is pretty good.

Everything seems to be coming together almost too beautifully – maybe I finally realized in my head I need to enjoy the time I have now, because nothing is constant.  Life is going to change once Graduation Day approaches.  Tonight I spent time with one of my best friends Maggie talking about how we were freshmen year and how everyone we knew has changed so.  Tables were turned slightly in that while I talked about my fears of the unknown, she talked about how one has to look forward to the future with excitement.  Every situation one finds themselves in is always subjective and in “the eye of the beholder.”  One’s perspective is the overall deciding factor on whether one is having a favorable or unfavorable experience.  It’s not worth wasting energy being negative – you miss out on seizing opportunities.

So if you are going to take anything away from this unexpected bit of optimism from yours truly (not that I am a Negative Nancy by nature – I’m truly a relatively positive person – but I do run the risk of having moments of cynicism – doesn’t everyone?) here is advice:

– Time and energy spent being stressed and sad is time and energy wasted – there must be something else  you can use that energy constructively on.

– Stop drinking coffee after noon, it is not an “elixir of life”, it’s a death sentence that leads to stress.  I speak from experience, my name is Reb and I am a recovering caffeine addict.

– If there is something you seek, something you must accomplish, take it upon yourself to figure out the right answer.  No one is going to deliver all of life’s answers on a platter.

– Acknowledge what you have, stop thinking about what you have left to acquire.  Figure out what it is that makes you unique and an asset and own it.  Never be ashamed of how you are.

– My mother (who you can call for now Barbara, my friends can call her “Mommy Carlson”) once used this metaphor on me and it has helped me more than I expected.  Imagine that you have a pitcher full of water and a table of glasses before you.  You can only filled so many glasses with so much amount of water.  Would you rather have many glasses barely filled, or a select few filled to the brim?  This is how you should look at the projects you invest yourself in.  Never stretch yourself too thin.

– Get your just rewards.  If you feel you aren’t getting the recognition you deserve, get it or let it go.  Demand the attention you deserve.

– It’s worth spending time finding the things that inspire you and ignite your creativity.  On better days I am able to start my day “combing through” the Internet looking through my Tumblr, RSS feeds, the news, etc. to find something interest and innovating that I can think about throughout the day.  Today’s great find courtesy of Kickstarter was a couple of rough sketches by The Museum Proper of their plans to create a 12-foot tall puppet.

I have a long night of homework and tasks ahead, and then it’s back to the grind in the morning.  However, instead of looking upon it in contempt, I have to admit it’s become characteristic of me to always be busy, always be thinking, always taking part.

A Few of My Favorite Things #3

Bear Hands

Bear Hands
Bear Hands at Mercury Lounge during CMJ Music Marathon 2009

I started listening to Bear Hands in anticipation of last fall’s CMJ Music Marathon.  “Golden” and “What a Drag” are my favorites.  Bear Hands is definitely an example where the lyrics matter more than over-complicated musical stylings.  I can’t go further into explaining why I like them, I just do.  That’s the way music is.  It’s something you just “like”, without having to write a long analytical essay defending its merits.  I am also a big fan of how one can download Bear Hands tracks  *FOR FREE* by going on BearHandsBand and sharing your email.  You then receive a message with a free download link and info about news and their upcoming shows.  Bear Hands also has available through their site a white 7″ vinyl for purchase, because we all know that vinyl is making a comeback.

\”What a Drag\” – Bear Hands

Urs Fischer

This image of Noisette alone along with a recommendation to examine the “wall paper” on the third floor makes me desperately want to see this Urs Fischer exhibit at the New Museum on 235 Bowery, New York, NY.  “Urs Fischer: Marguerite de Ponty” is Fischer’s first solo show and is the culmination of four years work.  The wall paper “turns the Museum’s architecture into an image of itself—a site-specific trompe l’oeil environment. Each square inch of the Museum architecture has been photographed and reprinted as a wallpaper that covers the very same walls and ceiling, in a maddening exercise in simulation.” (New Museum) The exhibit is finished on February 7th so I need someone to commit to seeing it with me NOW!  The New Museum knows you are a broke college student, that’s why we will pay $8.

The Kandy-Kolored Tangerine-Flake Streamline Baby by Tom Wolfe

Author of The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test Tom Wolfe writes glimpses into lesser known American lives.  The first chapter, “Las Vegas (What?) Las Vegas (Can’t Hear You! Too Noisy)” makes one think of the infamous Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. My favorite are the chapters about life in New York along with sketches of New Yorkers in the chapter titled “A Metropolitan Sketchbook”.  If you find yourself rolling your eyes at the élite high society of New York, or you simply are not one of the natives and enjoy being cynical, this book is for you.   I’ve becoming a fan of anthologies that you can pick up every once in a while for a second read and not feel guilty about reading some stories more than others.  And just because it’s a recession is no excuse to stop reading.  Be good to the Earth and buy a used copy.

Kurt Vonnegut was a fan, saying it was an “excellent book by a genius who will do anything to get attention.”

IFC’s Web Series Getting Away With Murder

Gilbert John, the actor playing the main character Seth Silver in Getting Away With Murder, is cute and delightfully awkward as he works as a cold-blooded hitman but still lives with his mom.  The series itself is a hilarious take on the blood and gore plots that are gaining popularity (Dexter, Law & Order, CSI).  Getting Away With Murder also has the well-known theme of one of life’s ever eternal conflicts: keeping your personal life and your career separate.  Besides that, the characters are outrageous and the dialogue smirk-worthy.  It reminds me of the independent films (cough student films cough) that my friends and I have been involved with the past few years at Hofstra.  I may be biased (I’m a public relations intern for IFC), but all the IFC Web Series are gems.  I spent an entire night during Christmas vacation watching the entire series and sincerely feel I am a  better person for it.

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There you go.  You now have a new band (Bear Hands) to talk about with the cute whatever at the bar this weekend, where you will also talk about the new book you are reading (The Kandy-Kolored Tangerine-Flake Streamline Baby by Tom Wolfe), take said cute whatever to that cool new art exhibit (Urs Fischer at New Museum), and then snuggle up on the couch with the cute whatever watching the awkwardly cute Gilbert John (Getting Away with Murder).  Ta da!

Now turning off Belle & Sebastian and going to Paddy’s Power Pub in Merrick to watch co-workers sing karaoke.  Have fun this weekend and I promise to have more entries soon.

All I want for Christmas

Here you are family and friends, My Christmas List.  Or a list of items that define my personality so much so that if having never met me and  saw all these things thrown into a drawer, you would understand me to my inner core – or at least have a good guess of my interests. Some you should take more seriously than others.

  • iTouch – smartphones are on the rise.  I have  many statuses on social networking platforms to update.  I love Verizon Wireless too much to give it up.  My iPod is finally on the fritz.  I’m hoping wherever I land my first job, a Blackberry would automatically come my way.
  • Black Hill’s Gold Jewelry
  • Books – anything by Roald Dahl, Infinite Jest , Word Virus: The William S. Burroughs Reader, Last Exit to Brooklyn, Googled: The End of the World As We Know It by Ken Auletta (need for an independent study next semester)
  • Movies – Royal Tennenbaums –  Wed Anderson,  Woody Allen – Manhattan
  • Piano player/singer of White Rabbits Stephen Patterson.  Dear Stephen, Locking eyes with you at the Wicker Park Fest over the summer…I can’t, I can’t, I just…ugh I can’t even…marry me.
  • black tights by the truck load – I will be damned if I walk around looking like some hobo hipster.
  • “Ugg Repellent” – If I never see a pair of Uggs again, it would be too soon.
  • knitted hats – I’ll be damned if I get a cold this winter.
  • Adobe Suite – best to buy while I can claim student status
  • Black hardcover sketchbook 8.5 x 11
  • membership to Underground Library Project
  • an appearance on IFC’s “Food Party”
  • oil pastels
  • that my shoes will stop falling apart
  • that i will learn that all the walking I do is not worth ruined shoes and I should just spring for subway fair.

A Few of My Favorite Things #2

So, Reb, how are things going?

I don’t want to talk about how school is going (new media = win, group projects = not so much).

I can’t get into how the internship search is going (swell, a few interviews here and there, fingers crossed about a few possibilities).

I just want to talk about a few of my favorite things at the moment.

Uncut episodes of Arrested Development on IFC.

Brouwerij Lane in Greenpoint – drank Weihenstephaner Hefeweizen with my friend Brianne one rainy Saturday afternoon and sat for  two hours talking = probably one of the best afternoons I’ve had all fall.  Embarassingly enough we just called it “B-lane” for the longest time because of our intimidation about German pronunications.

My apparent love for all things El Dia de los Muertos.  The tote bag is from the apparently defunct Fuego, and the skeleton hanging and skull ring were both gifts from my friend Stacey.  The ring alone amused me for an entire day – it lights up and is made of a consistency that makes it easy to pretend the skull is headbanging.

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